"Anyone can become angry - that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not easy." - Aristotle, The Nichomachean Ethics

bEen reading up aBt our bRain's reLation witH ouR emOtions. gEez... its dAmn intERestING la!!! i'm hOoked.. tHrow me morE of sUch bOoks..

"Life is a comedy got those who think and a tragedy for those who feel."
- Horace Walpole

i've dEcided tO mAke my life a cOmedy.. bYe fEelingS! (dUn laUgh.. i know i cAn't mk it..)

sO much reaDing i WANT tO dO.. sO little tIme.. maYbe i sHld qUit my job earlier.. dOesn leaD me aLong the paTH i wanna gO oN anW.. jUst pROvides mE mOolaH.. bUt bRain fOod is impT tOo! *hMpH*







i lOve mY indIan nEighbOurs! tHey invited me fOr pOst dEepavali celebRations aND tHE fooD wAs gReat.. i wAn an iNdian hUbby.. *wHines*






i sHldn hAve prObed.. its bEen sO long.. bUt i did.. aNd oh.. how tHe oLd wouNd sTill hUrts.. bAdly..

cAN u bLame mE fOr beIng a nOn-beLiever? gUess nOt..

因为太了解所以很伤心... bUt its ok... i wLdn let tHis affect me.. mOst imptly, 我问心无愧..






it wAs a.. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX (i haVE nO wOrds tO deScribe it bUt i bEt its lOng) day yeSt.. my eMotions weRe on a rOller cOaster rIde..

ofTen, we cOmplain cos we dUnnO wHat tO cHoose.. wE're aFraid of maKing cHoices tHat may impacT us gREatly aNd afFect ouR life. yeST, sMtHing haPPened tHAt made me reAlise, haVing a cHoice is beTTer tHAn haVing nO choice aT all. wHen we haVE a cHoice, we taKe reSPonsibility fOr our life. wHen we havE nO cHoice, we'RE at tHe mercY of sOmething caLLed fAte/deStiny; sOmething tHat i do not tOtally believe it. i haTe it wHen i can't be in cOntRol of my owN life.. i aLso reAlised aNOther tHing abOut myself. i wLd nOt gIve up mY dREams fOr lOve. bUt i wld dO sO fOr fAmily.

aFter a baD scAre, i tOt it wAs only fAir tO celebrAte w gOod cOffee.. bRought mUm tO tcc fOr nIce cOffee aNd i'm hOoked oN tHeir kaffee-tini..

dUring dInner w mY oLdESt fRiend (nOt aGe-wIse) & a fellow enthusiast heLped me dEcide wHether i sHld sTay or gO. gO i pRobably wlD, bUt tHe deSTination aNd purpose is neIther of tHe places i orIginaLly haD in mInd.. life is fUll of tWists aNd tUrns aNd i'm loVing eVery sECond of it..

fEll in lovE w a mAths bOok at kIno.. yUp aBout maThs anD mOna lisA. i sUrprise myself.. didn i oNce sWear i'll neVer haVe anything tO dO w mAThs as sOon as i caN heLp it? *sHrUgz* tHe bOok hAS a nIce qUote:
"When you can measure what you are talking about and express it in numbers, you know something about it; but when you cannot express it in numbers, your knowledge of it is of a meager and unsatisfactory kind." - Lord Kelvin (Physicist)








i rEAlise i attraCt weirDos on a rEgulaR basIs.. i'm fReaked.. if i sUddenly gEt murdereD oR sOmething, its bY a gUy in mY cO. ok?

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We Are What We Choose To Be
I was in the grocery store the other day and there was a woman at the check out stand beside mine. She wore dirty clothes, needed her hair washed and had a cigarette hanging out of her mouth. All of a sudden she turned in my direction and I saw her face.

I almost started to cry. Her face was the most frightful face I have ever seen. Years of bitterness and resentment were written there; years of anger and hurt, years of being unloved and uncared for.

And, out of her mouth were words of anger as she spoke to her small child. She must have been in her thirties, but she looked like she was over fifty. The hatred had done its job. The bitterness had robbed this woman of her youth.

She chose what she was going to be.

Attitude has a powerful impact on our physical bodies. The thoughts we have held and the words we have used have created the person we are right now. So, it only stands to reason, if we change our thoughts and words, we can be transformed into an entirely different person. (And, some of us need some transformation : )

It doesn't matter how long we have held on to anger, lack of forgiveness, self-hatred, pity, resentment, ungratefulness, etc., etc. We can change our thought patterns.

We are what we choose to be.

When someone hurts us, we react and we don't forgive.
We hold on the hurt. Poor me... nobody really understands.
Nobody really cares.

We are choosing what we are to become.

I have a friend (she is 35 years old) who's mother died of breast cancer. My friend constantly worried and fretted about developing the disease herself.

She went in for check-ups twice a year... sometimes more. She constantly talked about it. Was always reading up on it. What causes it? What cures it?

I finally told her, "You are going to get this disease for no other reason than your obsession with it."

This friend was diagnosed with breast cancer a few weeks ago.

We go where our thoughts take us.

I remember one client who had been on thyroid medication for almost 20 years. She was a willing converter... something I don't see a lot of : )

She changed her diet completely, exercised everyday, spent time each afternoon receiving the healing benefits of sunshine. She juiced, she supplemented.... she did everything right as far as diet and lifestyle change. Did it help? No.

Finally I had a talk with her about the emotions behind thyroid problems - long standing anger. Her response was, "How did you know?"

This client was carrying around 20 years worth of anger and bitterness towards her deceased mother. She had been abused as a child and never felt love from the woman who gave her birth.

When she realized this, she could begin steps towards forgiving. Her mother wasn't being hurt by her emotions, she was. As she forgave, the healing began.

We are what we choose to be.

Choose to be happy. Choose not to let the cares of this world bring us down. Choose to do something nice for someone today. Tell your child how special he is. Tell him to live his dreams, accomplish his goals. Thank God everyday for your many blessings!

Don't live a life of negatives when you can enjoy a life of positives. Always see the glass half full, not empty. And, remember, "We are what we choose to be".







我们都是迷路的孩子。。

wOuld u tAKe my hAnd aNd tAke me fAr aWAy?

带我去流浪！
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"tHEre aRE 3 sIDes tO eVery sTory.
yOur sIde, tHeir sIde, aND tHE tRuth." - aNon

"rEmembEr hOw yOU gOt hIm becAuse tHAt will be hOw yOu'll lOSe hIm tOo." - Marian Keynes

dO yOu belieVe in reTribUtion? i dO. eSpecially in tHE context oF lOve.

i've aLways fElt tHAt Marian Keynes' bOoks arE exTreme cHick-lit. in tHe seNse tHAt u reAd it, haVe a gOod laUgh anD fOrgEt abOut it. "The other side of the story" is sLIghtly dIfferent tHough.. itS abOut lOve, fAmily aND fRiendship..

mAybe fRiendships aNd reLAtionships arE tHE sAMe.. nO maTTer how "in love" both paRties aRE, wHen its tIme tO sAY yOur gOod-bYes, nO maTTer how harD oNE paRty tRies tO sAlvaGE tHE relationsHip, its usEless.. i fiNd it mUch eaSier tO leT gO of reLAtionships tHAn sTrained fRiendships.. sOmehow, tO me bfs cOme aNd gO. its liKe tAking a bUs. if u mIss tHe current oNE, u caN always wAit fOr the neXt one wHich will cOme in like.. wat? tHE next cOuple of mins? of cOS tHERe aRE gUys wHo are dIfferent.. u click mORe w tHem, tHEre's mORe 'chemistRy' etc.. bUT pals are different! gfs are fOr life! (or sO i tOT) aPparantly nOt eVEry one tHinks tHE sAme wAy.. sIghz.. :( wHY? *pOUt*






人不知而不愠，不亦君子乎？ i have tO keep reminding mYself of tHis.. 人不知而不愠，不亦君子乎？ 人不知而不愠，不亦君子乎？ 人不知而不愠，不亦君子乎？

i haVE tO repeAt tHis tO mYsElf 100 tImes tOdaY tO sTop mE fRom going iNsaNe.. 人不知而不愠，不亦君子乎？人不知而不愠，不亦君子乎？人不知而不愠，不亦君子乎？人不知而不愠，不亦君子乎？人不知而不愠，不亦君子乎？

aRgh..





"Stardust" was gOod.. tHanks tO FJ's recomendation. hE sAid "its aBout tHe qUest fOr tRue lOve.." i wAsn tHAt interesTed in tHe quest fOr tRue loVE. nEither wAs i inTErestEd in fAntasy. it jUst diDn sOund like mY kind of mOvie.. bUt i sTill went aHead tO wATch it aNw.. it dIdn dIsappoinT..

sOmethIng wEird hAppened tOday.. i wAlk 10mins tO wK eVeryday aND yeSt, on tWo occasIons, i wAS cIrcled bY a yEllow bUtterfly aND a blAck one reSpectivEly.. tOdaY, i a cRow wAs flying aRound me aNd it has nO flying license whatsoever. i sWear it wAS cHarging aT me! iT ciRcled me aT leaSt 5 rounDs! 5 times it missed mE by incHes.. dAMn.. i cOuld hAve kIssed it! wAhaha..

wAs reaLLy getting bOred w mY job.. bUt seeing R mAde mY dAy mUCh beTTer.. hAve i meNtioned hIm b4? hE's a gREat leAder. enOugh sAid.



sAw tHis nIce qUote..
"Time is like a river.
You can't tOuch the sAMe wather tWice because the flow that has passed will never pass again.
Enjoy every moment of life."


The value of time

Imagine there is a bank which credits your account each morning with $86,400; carries over no balance from day to day, allows you to keep no cash balance, and every evening cancels whatever part of the amount you had failed to use during the day.

What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course! Well, everyone has such a bank. Its name is TIME. Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purpose.

It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft. Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the records of the day. If you fail to use the day's deposits, the loss is yours. There is no going back. There is no drawing against the "tomorrow". You must live in the present on today's deposits. Invest it so as to get from it the utmost in health, happiness and success! The clock is running. Make the most of today.

To realize the value of ONE YEAR: Ask a student who has failed his exams.
To realize the value of ONE MONTH: Ask a mother who has given birth to a pre-mature baby.
To realize the value of ONE WEEK: Ask an editor of a weekly.
To realize the value of ONE DAY: Ask a daily wage labouror.
To realize the value of ONE HOUR: Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.
To realize the value of ONE MINUTE: Ask a person who has missed the train.
To realize the value of ONE SECOND:Ask a person who has survived an accident.
To realize the value of ONE MILLI-SECOND: Ask the person who has won a silver medal in Olympics.
To realize the value of ONE MICRO-SECOND: Ask NASA's Team of scientists.
To realize the value of ONE NANO-SECOND: Ask a Hardware Engineer.
And even then, if you don't realize the value of time: You must be a Software Engineer !!







i fInally fully undERstOod tHe USEs (yeS i sAid USES) oF a bOy/giRlfrIend.

a fRen of minE is gEtting maRRied eARly neXt yr. we hAve nO otHer commOn fRiend. sHe aSked me tO bring mY bf aLong. i lOoked aT her bLankly.

"wHicH oNe?"
"a sErious oNe.. u kNow, oNe thAT u tHink u cAN iNtro tO pple aS ur oFFicial bf?"
"u kNow wHat? i tHink i mIght be sIck on tHat dAy.. haha.."
"-_- iDiot.."

a fRen oF YL is gEtting marRied neXt wEEk. (its a sHe) hE wAS aLso aSKed tO bRing a paRtner aLong. in fact, the exacT reQuest by hIs cLose fRiend was..

"bRing someoNe u cAn reALLy clicK w.. sOmeoNe wHo mAKes u sMile wHEn u tHink of her.. sOmeonE u aRE cLose tO.. i wAn tO meEt her.."

hE rEAlly dIdn kNow wHo tO brIng.. aNd tHis wAS wHere (aCCording tO hIm) i cAme in handy aS a pARt tIme gf.. wHich wOrks weLL fOR me.. hAving a pARt tIme bf meAns i'm sTill sIngle rIght? nO cOmmitmeNTs! aNd wHen we mEET occasIons like tHese we haVe somEone tO bRing bUt nOT exActly commitEd.. fRens wHo sHare cOuple sEats in tHeatres.. sOmeone tO hElp mE sCold gUys wHo tRy tO b fUnny.. sOmeonE wHom i cAN bUlly wHen i fEEl like it.. sOmeone tO tell seCrets tO..

fUnnily, if wE're tAlking abt a sErious r/sP i dOubt we'll cHoose eCh otR.. (at least i'm sUre i wldn allow myself tO end up w hIm!) bUt still..

dEspite bEnefits of haVing a sErious bf/gf like.. u know sOmeone will alWays b tHere fOr u (hOpefully!), a sHoulder tO leaN on, sOmeone u cAN dIscuss sTuff w.. someone tO sHAre ur liFE w.. i sTill believe tHe cons oUtwEigh tHe prOs.. (dUn gEt me sTarted oN tHE cOns..) pT tIme bf is a gOod aRRangEment..

liFE is funny i gUess.. wIth 1/2 bROthers aNd sIsters, sTep paRentS, 25% relaTed.. i gUess pARt time bf/gf isN tHat sTrange aFterall..

“安全感不是等男人给你的。。安全感是自己给自己的。。” - supErgIrL





i rEad chick-lit once every 6mths.. moSt of the tIme i hAve a gOod laUgh aNd fOrget aBt it.. bUt aMazingly, i juSt read oNe wHich i fEel that i caN reALLy relate tO.. iTs tHe sHopaholic sEries by Sophie Kinsella.. itS nOT tHe paSsion fOr sHopping aND irResponsibility (or sO i tHink) tHAt gEts tO me.. mAybe i'm fACing 1/2 the pROblems sHe's fAcing aND i'm hOping fOr a haPpy enDing tOo.. bUt cHick-lit will b chick-lit.. its tOo unrealistic..

快乐要自己寻找，幸福要两个人去珍惜。。情人是这样。。朋友也一样。。



tHis makes me hAppy.. wHat mAKes YOU hapPy? ;)







因为某某人的一句话，我明白了。。错不在于我.. 一开始就只是个用谎言编制出来的美梦。。 what sTarts with a lie will end wiTh a lie.. 明白了，也哭够了。。

如果有错，我错在太爱你，给你太多自由。。


Obituary of the late Mr. Common Sense


Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as:

Knowing when to come in out of the rain; Why the early bird gets the worm; Life isn't always fair; and Maybe it was my fault.

Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies (don't spend more than you can earn) and reliable strategies (adults, not children, are in charge).

His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6 -year-old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.

Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly children. It declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer Calpol, sun lotion or a band-aid to a student; but could not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion.

Common Sense lost the will to live as the Ten Commandments became contraband; when some churches turned away from truth and traded in deception; and criminals received better treatment than their victims.

Common Sense took a beating when you couldn't defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and if you did, the burglar could sue you for assault.

Common Sense finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement. Common Sense was preceded in death by his parents, Truth and Trust; his wife, Discretion; his daughter, Responsibility; and his son, Reason.

He is survived by his 3 stepbrothers; I Know My Rights, Someone Else Is To Blame, and I'm A Victim.

Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone.






i've alwaYs lovEd nIghtiMe mORe tHAn daYtIme.. 那种宁静让心情很平静。。 很适合思考。。bUt its beEn ages sINce i had tHe time tO sIt at my dEsk aNd tHink, ponDer aNd reFLect.. feeLs gOod..

tO lEave oR tO sTay? i knOw wHAt i waNT.. aLas.. otHer concERns are hOlding mE baCk.. sIghz..






aNyone has tHis sOng?

黄宝欣-卡门 i'm iTching tO listEn to it.. seRiously.. *scRatch*x2







tAke a bReak fR sTudying! listEn tO tHis sOng.. its nICe :)

那年的情书 江美琪

作词:姚谦作曲:黄国伦


手上青春还剩多少
思念还有多少煎熬
偶尔清洁用过的梳子
留下了时光的线条

你的世界但愿都好
当我想起你的微笑
无意重读那年的情书
时光悠悠青春渐老

回不去的那段相知相许美好
都在发黄的信纸上闪耀
那是青春诗句记号
莫怪读了心还会跳
你是否也还记得那一段美好
也许写给你的信早扔掉
这样才好曾少你的
你已在别处都得到







实在不想回头看。。可是，忍了很久很久，还是不经频频回眸。。


我说过：“但愿在一起的日子，无论长短，大家以后回首时，都不会有任何遗憾。。”
我说过：“你还没离开是因为还没找到更好的。”
我说过：“让你走，给你自由，不是不爱你。。 是因为很爱你。。”

为什么我说的话这么灵验，你说的却一点也没实现？

你改变了我，我却没改变你。。

以为早就放下了。。原来真的，没有答案不行。。都这么久了。。

答应自己。。 这是最后一次。。 当作是回忆的葬礼。。没有答案，也要忘记。。那一箱信，该收到不见天日的地方了。。那一摞摞的回忆，该忘了。。

回到认识你之前的那个我。。

继续我的游戏。。忘记要认真，忘记你。

够了。。





fEll sIck at tHe most inconvenIent tIme (actually there isn a convenient time to fall sick but anw..) 4 daYs tO my lasT paper! sIgh.. hOw tO sTUdy? aRgh..