this is not a sTory.. bUt a pARt of a gooD sOng:

你向所有人撒谎。难道甜蜜较容易伪装？让人羡慕的恩爱之中，有着貌合神离的心伤。
你应该大声说 bye bye 勇敢爱就勇敢散。大声说 bye bye，看是谁离不开。。

a r/sp built on lies will end in lies.. simple as that.. can't stand stoRies with the female lead crying and threatening to die after a break up.. its senseless..

Paulo Coehlo is Popular's author of the week! 2nd bk at 50% off! sO i happily grabbed "bY the rivER piedra i sat down and wept" (to complete the trilogy!) only to realise his "the witch of portobello" is only out in the A5 version which is more ex.. argh.. i'm itching to read it man! when's the smaller version coming out?! *itCh*

Anyone read Mitch Albom's "Tuesdays"? in it, the professor (Morrie) held a "funeral" b4 he really died.. so he could hear wat pple wan to tell him or say to him.. instead of havin them said when he's cold and lifeless in his .. sounds like a good idea huh? maybe i shld hold one too..

would u attend it if i invited u to? wat would u say then? as a final farewell to me?





My boss gave me a book b4 i left the co. Its "Tuesdays w Morrie" - Mitch Albom, one of my fav authors.. Anw, its a good book.. in the past couple of days i've finished "veronika decides to die" by paulo coehlo and "tuesdays".. both books are great.. coincidentally, both books touched on life and death issues (generally.. but its more than that of cos).. in "Tues", Mitch talks about his dying prof, Morrie. Someone who had made a difference in his schooling life.. like him, i had such a teacher too.. and like him, i lost contact w him.. unlike him who really forgot, i haven got the courage to face him. bUt again, like him, i'm determined to pick up where i left off.. but its not now.. anw, an except fr "Tues":

Okay, question, I say to Morrie. His bony fingers hold the glasses across his chest, which rises and falls with each laboured breath.
"wats the question?" he asked.
Remember the Book of Job?
"From the Bible?"
Right. Job is a good man, but God makes him suffer to test his faith.
"I rem."
Takes away everything he has, his house, his money, his family...
"His health"
Makes him sick.
"To test his faith."
Right, to test his faith. So, i'm wondering...
"What are you wondering?"
What do u think abt that?
Morrie coughs violently. His hands quiver as he drops them by his side.
"I think," he sayd smiling, "God overdid it."



*oUch* :_(





她坐在我对面。。 眼神很哀伤。。 我很想问她为什么。。 我很想抱抱她。。 告诉她这世界还很美丽。。不要哭。。 可是我根本不认识她。。 所以我只能陪她伤心。。:(





my sUpervisor (leTs cAll hIm MZ) tOld mE mOre sTorieS tOday.. i eNjoy lisTening tO aH mAs aH kOngs uncLes aNd aunties tAlk.. dUnno why.. haha..

MZ has 2 cousins living in malaysia..

cousin A has a BIG BIG house w 4 maids, equiped w a full length pool and a garage bIg enuf to house 7 cars. cOusin A is unmarried. he believes anyone who gets close to him is after his $$. he's forever hurling abuses at his maids to vent his frustrations. his mummy is constantly afraid that her husband is having an affair. she hides her insecurity by shopping aggresively and paranoidly checking his everything.. emails, phonecalls, smses, calling his office etc.. this fam has riches.. plenty of it..

cousin B lives in the kampong.. everyday when he comes home fr work, his wife would run out to greet him, "hi dear, u are back! let me carry that for u.. how's ur day?" tHen they would settle down for dinner.. the amt of food they have is not alot.. in my mum's words, its 吃不饱又饿不死.. after dinner, they will sit outside, look at the stars, watching their kids play and chat.. they will take turns massaging ech other cos they both had a hard day.. and every morning b4 cousin B leaves for work he'll giv the wife a hug and tells her to take care..

who wld u rather be? i know this story is pretty cliche.. bUT when u hear it knowing its a true story its still pretty tot provking.. life is fair isn it? when God gives u something he takes away another.. who wld u rather be?





no stories today.. bUT something to think abt.. my sUpervisor likes to talk tO me.. anD i like tO talk tO hIm too.. hE's a 40++ uncle.. malay uncle.. thru him, i see hIs passion in tHis workplace.. he's ahead of hIs tIme. bUT he's not forceful enough in implementing changes.. he tells me lots of stuff.. discuss w me abt life.. abt religions.. amazingly, we're pretty alike in thinking.. todaY, while dIscussing e implemEnTation of a pRoj, hE asked me.. "eh jasmine ar, just wondering.. do u think, or rather, would u, be totally honest w ur frens or ur bf or wld u kp certain things to urself?" being totally honest.. is it good or bad? bUt tO hide things isn a good feeling.. however, to b completely honest can b bad.. he then told me a sTory to illustrate (which is kinda personal so i'll kp it to myself) bUt the moral of the story is, one shldn be completely honest cos one day the person u bared ur soul to will use wat u've said against u.. sad huh? i've made my stand.. hav u?





A stranger was seated next to a little girl on the airplane when the
stranger turned to her and said, "Let's talk.

I've heard that flights go quicker if you strike up a conversation with
your fellow passenger."

The little girl, who had just opened her book, closed it slowly and said
to the stranger, "What would you like to talk about?

"Oh, I don't know", said the stranger. "How about nuclear power?"

"OK," she said. "That could be an interesting topic. But let me ask you a
question first.
A horse, a cow, and a deer all eat grass, the same stuff. Yet a deer
excretes little pellets, while a cow turns out a flat patty, and
a horse produces clumps of dried grass. Why do you suppose that is?"

The stranger thinks about it and says, "Hmmm, I have no idea,"

To which the little girl replies, "Do you really feel qualified to discuss
nuclear power when you don't know shit?"





Wayne forwarded me this email couple of days ago.. one of the few meaningful forwarded emails.. marriage takes lots of hard work to mk it last.. perphaps it doesn just apply to marriage.. it applies to any r/sp.. too tedious i say.. success rate too low too.. so my take on marriage is obvious.. but for those who are thinking of investing ur youth, time and efforts on this risky investment, the 'story' below is a good read.. and remember.. its always the little things that count..

GOOD ONE!
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.>>But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the >natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive >you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the >initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the >most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things >you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise >program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you >know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can "make" love. Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".. . not just a feeling..

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